Five Tips For Effective Communicating

I spent a day recently working with a team of people who belong to a part of the government that I can’t mention. But aside from talking about hamsters and flying cars instead of the real work they were doing, so that they didn’t have to kill me at the end of the day, the training focused on body language and storytelling as it usually does. And the concerns and struggles of… Read More

Intentional Communicating

I found myself recently talking to a group of Harvard students at the end of a daylong conference, trying to persuade them to become intentional about their communications. You might think that I was preaching to the choir – surely Harvard students are intentional about their communications, if anyone is – but I found the same basic surprise in the eyes of this audience that I do with most groups I talk… Read More

Making Business Relationships Work

In two previous posts I discussed some preliminary work I’ve been doing on the life cycle of a business relationship. I posited that the first stage, pretty clearly, is the relationship-establishing or deal-killing friend-or-foe analysis. In other words, neuroscience tells us, the first thing that people do when they get together is decide do I feel comfortable with this person or not?   Is this person a friend or a foe? The second stage… Read More

How to Communicate Early in a Business Relationship

In a previous post I discussed some preliminary work I’ve been doing on the life cycle of a business relationship. I posited that the first stage, pretty clearly, is the relationship-establishing or deal-killing friend-or-foe analysis. In other words, neuroscience tells us, the first thing that people do when they get together is decide do I feel comfortable with this person or not?   Is this person a friend or a foe? The second… Read More

What is the life cycle of a business relationship?

What is the life cycle of a business relationship? And how does neuroscience help us understand it, if at all? I’ve been doing some preparatory work on this question in advance of writing a new book on communications (details to come). Here’s what I’ve learned so far. I’m imagining the kind of business relationship where one party is the service or product provider and the other party is the client or customer…. Read More