How to Decode Other People’s Body Language Accurately

How to decode body language

What Gesture Is Good For A useful way to think about gestures is as an early warning system for intent, emotion, and mood.  We gesture because our unconscious minds push us to do so with an emotion, an intent, or a desire that our conscious minds are not aware of until after the gesture has [...]

Weird Jewelry or Brilliant Solution to an Age-Old Speaking Problem?

Body Language Jewelry

Apparently, there’s a jewelry designer in New Jersey who is so self-conscious that she’s created a line of jewelry in order to answer the age-old question that speakers have asked for as long as there have been speakers, what should I do with my hands? Wonderful. I’m making the risky assumption that this article is [...]

The Fourth Step to Brain Mastery

Brain Mastery

The fourth step to brain mastery comes straight out of science fiction.  In his classic sci-fi novel Dune, Frank Herbert shows us a powerful family communicating their intent with secret hand signals and controlling less dominant individuals with the Voice, a mysterious way of speaking that bends others to their will. Here’s the surprising truth:  [...]

The Third Step to Brain Mastery

Brain Science and Communication

The third step in brain mastery involves learning how to read the body language of others around you. There is a huge body of misinformation that has built up around reading body language.   The research approach for most of the last 40 years studied gestures as if they had specific meaning.  In other words, if [...]

The Second Step to Brain Mastery

Brain Science and Communication

The second step to brain mastery and powerful communication follows directly on from the first.  Now that you’ve taken inventory of your gestures, it’s time to learn to control and shape them. Here’s the surprise:  once you take charge of your own gestures with the right techniques, you’ll be well on the way to controlling [...]

Communication and Brain Science — Part 3

Brain Mastery

The brain research of the last few years revolutionizes our usual ways of thinking about communications.  Here’s a summary of what the new science is telling us: We communicate more powerfully through our bodies than our words; Communication is mostly unconscious, and, unless we become aware of it because of some extraordinary moment or action, [...]

How to master your gestures to become a more effective communicator

Public Speaking Gestures

Every communication is two conversations. The first conversation is the one you’re aware of — the content. The second conversation is the one that you’re an unconscious expert on — the non-verbal one. These two conversations always go together. They are so integral to one another that most people tend to gesture with their hands [...]

How to decode other people’s body language

How to decode body language

We are all unconscious experts in reading other people’s intentions toward us. We evolved these skills in the woolly mammoth era because our lives depended on them, and the unconscious mind works must faster than the conscious mind. But we are not very good at making this unconscious awareness conscious. We can react with blinding [...]

People I’m Grateful For: #1 – Susan Goldin-Meadow

I’m going to start a series of blogs on people that have added something important to the world of communications.  The series will be personal and partial, but I welcome nominations for those you think I’ve missed.  I’m grateful to these people because understanding how we communicate is desperately important to bettering our humanity in [...]