We Humans Are Social Beings – and Why That Matters for Speakers

We humans are social beings; we share mirror neurons that allow us to match each other’s emotions unconsciously and immediately. We leak emotions to each other. We anticipate and mirror each other’s movements when we’re in sympathy or agreement with one another—when we’re on the same side. And we can mirror each other’s brain activity […]

How to use your voice for leadership

What’s the best voice for influencing others and dominating the herd? A recent study found that male horses with the deeper whinny appeal more to female horses and generally fared better in the DNA sweepstakes. Similar studies have found advantages of a parallel kind for humans. Researchers at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business analyzed […]

How to Conquer Your Unconscious Fears

This is the final post in a series on putting your unconscious mind to work for you, rather than leaving the biggest part of your communications to chance – or letting your unconscious fears and memories hold you back. I am not a believer in that mumbo-jumbo from The Secret that says if you just […]

How Your Unconscious Mind Determines Your Communications

I posted recently on the dangers of leaving your body language to chance. I’m going to continue on this subject for a couple more blog posts. Your unconscious mind is busy 24-7 running your body, freeing up your conscious mind to think about things like the temperature of your latte and your Spotify playlist. That’s […]

Communication is different now – part 2

The second in a series of three blogs inspired by Nicco Mele’s new book, The End of Big Twenty-first century communication has changed how we connect to the world in three essential ways:  connectivity, authenticity, and style.  I discussed connectivity in the last post; this post is about authenticity. Radical Authenticity Means Making What’s Staged […]

Communication and Brain Science — Part 3

The brain research of the last few years revolutionizes our usual ways of thinking about communications.  Here’s a summary of what the new science is telling us: We communicate more powerfully through our bodies than our words; Communication is mostly unconscious, and, unless we become aware of it because of some extraordinary moment or action, […]

Communication and Brain Science – Part 2

We humans are much more communal than we realize.  It’s something we’ve forgotten, as we tune in separately to our thousand channels of entertainment and news using devices that isolate us even as they offer pseudo-connections to the group through the music or the headlines or the games.  We remember our communality when we get […]