Communication is different now – part 2

The End of Big, Nicco Mele

The second in a series of three blogs inspired by Nicco Mele’s new book, The End of Big Twenty-first century communication has changed how we connect to the world in three essential ways:  connectivity, authenticity, and style.  I discussed connectivity in the last post; this post is about authenticity. Radical Authenticity Means Making What’s Staged [...]

Communication and Brain Science — Part 3

Brain Mastery

The brain research of the last few years revolutionizes our usual ways of thinking about communications.  Here’s a summary of what the new science is telling us: We communicate more powerfully through our bodies than our words; Communication is mostly unconscious, and, unless we become aware of it because of some extraordinary moment or action, [...]

Communication and Brain Science – Part 2

We humans are much more communal than we realize.  It’s something we’ve forgotten, as we tune in separately to our thousand channels of entertainment and news using devices that isolate us even as they offer pseudo-connections to the group through the music or the headlines or the games.  We remember our communality when we get [...]

Why Body Language Matters, and How to Think about It – Part 3

Three things happened to me when I was 17 that turned out to have a significant effect on my interest in communications, and specifically non-verbal communications, later in life.  First, I read a book about the Dalai Lama, and took him on as one of my heroes immediately and forever.  Second, I learned my father [...]

Leadership, Body Language, and Adrenaline

Every face-to-face communication is two conversations, the content and the body language.    Leaders who are not aware of – and in control of – their second conversations leave success to chance.  If good luck prevails, and their words and their second conversations align, then it all works. If not, everyone in the room senses that [...]

Leadership Is Communication

Most of us assume that we are primarily conscious beings with an intellect that plans, weighs objectives and options, and directs action — like having a movie director sitting in our heads. But in fact, our unconscious thought processes are far more sophisticated and influential than we have previously acknowledged.  And this counterintuitive fact has [...]

How to write a great speech

How to write a great speech

A great speech puts the occasion, the audience, and the speaker together in an unforgettable way. All three pieces of the rhetorical puzzle are important. When Churchill was going to give his famous ‘Iron Curtain’ speech after WW II, he didn’t go over to the House of Commons, where he delivered most of his orations. [...]

How President Obama and Governor Romney Should Prep for their Debates

The first debate perpetuated a huge national misconception about Presidential debates and the job of a leader in general.  The two candidates evidently prepped mightily, trying to learn all the facts they could about the economy, the country, and the government, but the sheer amount of data that they were clearly both filled with got [...]

How to master your gestures to become a more effective communicator

Public Speaking Gestures

Every communication is two conversations. The first conversation is the one you’re aware of — the content. The second conversation is the one that you’re an unconscious expert on — the non-verbal one. These two conversations always go together. They are so integral to one another that most people tend to gesture with their hands [...]

Leadership and Effective Communications

There's a new blogger on the scene, and he was kind enough to blog about my book Trust Me.  Vince Molinaro is rocking the leadership world with some very provocative ideas about how leadership involves both a community and a contract and how leaders need to join up and sign up before they are ready [...]