The most important thing to understand about body language is that we humans don’t care about it. Now, of course, that’s phrased to surprise you — what, a blogger on body language says we don’t care about it? What gives?
We don’t care about body language per se. What we care about is the intent behind the body language. And about that we care very, very much. Perhaps the most important and interesting question we humans ask ourselves when we gather in any size group from 2 to 2,000 is what do these other humans intend toward me? Friend or foe? More powerful or less powerful? A hug or a punch to the face? What’s their intent?
In that context, then, watch the TEDx talk below. In it, David JP Phillips talks about research he has done to understand better how you can tweak body language to deliver more effective talks. And he demonstrates what he’s learned brilliantly and with an engaging sense of fun.
And once you’ve watched it, think about the following questions. The research shows that audiences rate speakers highly if they excel on two scales — credibility and trust. So ask yourself, do I find Phillips credible? And do I trust him? And finally, what is the effect on those two criteria of his drawing attention again and again to his body language and demonstrating the points he’s making with that body language? Does it increase or decrease my rating?
Please let me know what you think in the comments section.
I guess I’m going first. I find Phillips credible. I trust him. And by drawing attention to his body language, by demonstrating the points he’s making with it, I trust him even more.
The smile he talks about is a bit of a tough sell, only because I once tried to imitate Morgan Fairchild’s way of smiling — without pressing wrinkles into my face. :)
Thanks, Maureen — let’s see what some other folks say!
Thanks Nick for the write up! I am super proud over the 7 year long project and it has really catapulted my coaching to a new dimension. Personally I am way happier with my two first TEDx-talks: The Magical Science of Storytelling https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iwpi1Lm6dFo and How To Avoid Death By PowerPoint: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nj-hdQMa3uA&t. Reason being that 1 minute in to this talk, my notes, the timer and the monitor in front of me froze and died which put pressure on delivering the talk under 18 minutes without having any reference of when that was because if you deliver over 18 minutes, TED wont accept the talk and 70 hours or preparation was down the drain. Hope you enjoy it anyway =) & if anyone wants the high def version of the Matrix just look me up on Linkedin.
Thanks, David — I loved the video and am eager to join you in the Matrix.